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The hours June 20, 2011

Posted by johnbohlinger in Uncategorized.

Normal people think in terms of good and bad days.  After you’ve lost your child,  you think in terms of good and bad hours.   Life is beautiful one minute,  then you drive past your child’s old school, or hear a song he use to sing, or smell the rain and that event triggers the pain and you remember that your baby is gone…and not coming back.    Suddenly your sunny day is dreary.



1. Maritta - June 25, 2011

I truly understand this feeling. It seems that our mind can be our enemy and we have to try to control all those memories that should be wonderful and not tainted with sadness. Just when you think you have a handle on it then out of the blue you can be stricken with the most inconceivable pain. Even a simple thing like a trip to Ikea can turn into a painful experience when you relive the last time you were there looking at patio furniture with your child or how every time you took a car ride with your child you were laughing and talking with such a carefree way you never knew what was to come. When people ask how I am I often say its day by day when I really do mean it is moment by moment or hour by hour. Time takes on a whole new meaning.

j boh - June 25, 2011

God bless you Maritta.

2. Roxanne Lee - July 14, 2011

Thank you John, for sharing your journey…I can so relate to all you have shared and your words are just what I needed to hear right now. My precious son Alex,18,passed in a car accident Nov 4 2008. Being a single mom for most of his life we had a bond that was indescribable and the loss is STILL so devastating…nobody gets it. I am having one of those nights where I just need to be “still”…escape from the world, the pain, guilt, the chaos in my head…I cant stop crying today. I am ready to watch some Seinfeld re-runs and try to find a bit of joy…I KNOW that’s what Alex would want, but it’s easier thought than done. Like the phone calls you got from August,those precious gifts from “God”, Alex wrote a note in the DMV after he passed his driving test….2 weeks before he crashed. It was scribbles of loving messages too myself,his brother and dad..the first line said.”If I die…..just live , learn and love…life is ride” “Keep living a life that will eventually unfold ;-)” . When I get so sad that i fear I just cant go on I pull the note out and it keeps me going. That was his love letter to us…
Thank you again…and keep on sharing
Roxanne http://alex-archambault.memory-of.com/About.aspx

johnbohlinger - July 15, 2011

“Just live, learn and love…life is a ride”

3. rushchick - August 12, 2011

Hugs to you John….Yeap those triggers really do bring you down to your knees at times 😦 I just added a video blog yesterday, TRYING to talk about what my blog is about and what not…..well you could obviously see that I was very emotional….I told myself before making the video that I wasn’t gonna cry, but well why pretend it is not an emotional thing right? Anyway hope your are as well as you can be my friend 🙂

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